An age-old conflict, usually with men on one side and women on the other. Morning sex or evening sex? Men wake up aroused, so morning is prime time. But women often prefer evenings when things have relaxed a bit.
Testosterone difference – Men do have a spike in testosterone between six and nine o’clock in the morning. They naturally like to capitalize on a good morning erection.
Difference in hormone cycles – Men can experience a daily 25-50% differential in testosterone in the morning, translating to a huge appetite for early sex. For women however, significant changes in testosterone don’t happen daily, but monthly. The largest increase happening mid-month during ovulation.
Cleanliness – Most women have a thing about being clean before sex. So, for her, the thought of morning breath and a night’s worth of sweat and genital odor can squash any desire for wake-up sex.
- Focus on the benefits. Both genders actually perform better at work after morning sex.
- Spend time cuddling and lay on the compliments. British gynecologist and researcher Gabrielle Downey says that the single biggest interference with female desire is her body image. So, tell her you love her tousled look and naked face (and body) first thing in the morning.
- Go to bed earlier. Sleep deprivation lowers testosterone levels in both genders. Getting enough sleep is essential for maintaining maximum hormonal balance and for limiting the stress hormone cortisol, which interferes with desire in both genders.
Each of you may have a favorite time of day, but pleasing your partner occasionally during their best moment brings fun. And when that happens, you both win.